Haunting Past

Analyze this: He is well educated, has a good job, good family, great friends, he is almost sure of the path for his life.
Looks cool, this guy is for sure a happy man on this planet of misery! But hey...ask him, is he happy? No, he is not!

This is true for most of "well-to-do" youngsters these days...they have it all, yet happiness is missing from their lives. But why so, they are living a decent present with a promising future ahead. The answer lies in the thing which is not revealed...that is their past.

Let's go back to that guy in the first line...his journey till date has been filled with both joys and sorrows. He witnessed great happiness when he scored highest marks in his class, or when he was chosen the captain of his school cricket team. He enjoyed that great family trip last summer, and how can he forget those fabulous days he spent with his loved friends! But then, he also can't forget the day he got his first semester result...for the first time he scored low grades! Then, how much he repented when he couldn't get that desired job. Sad memories of those days when his family was in pain, and those when he lived alone in an alien city. And how much he suffered when he unwillingly had to leave the person he loved the most!

So...although today he has a so-called "nice" life, yet he is not happy because his past still haunts him. The fear of failures he had in the past...be it in his career or relationships. He has this good job today, but he can't forget failure in his last job. He is living well with his family today, but he can't forget the days he had to live without them. He once again has someone to love in his life, but he is insecure because of haunting memories of his past relationship.

But then he can't change his past! He should be happy for what all he has in his present. Easier said than done! There is one missing element in all this theory, that is the significance of the past. If memories of the past were just meant to haunt and hurt us, then God would have not made our brain so powerful to retain details of our past. God makes us remember our past, for he wants us to take learning from our past and implement it in our present. For this guy...something went wrong in the last job interview, and he learned from his mistakes and so he has this good job today. He must have made some mistakes in his past relationship, but this time he won't repeat those mistakes and will play safe. His haunting past will help him to carve a better future. He might not be happy today, but in near future he will be happy for sure! He will get all that he deserves, his learning from his past will make him fit for life ahead.

This goes for all of us...we might not be happy today because our past haunts us, but just apply the learning from your past to your present, and be ready to embrace your bright future with a big smile!

Love: In view of "common" people

First neighbour: "hey...you know Mr. Mehta's daughter is so adamant to get married to the guy whom she loves, though her parents completely disapprove of this relationship...you know that guy is of some different caste and has lower social standard than that of Mehta's"

Second neighbour: "ya...even I heard that. This girl has gone mad. Why is she doing this...she is wrong!"

This kind of conversation is common among "common" people when they get to know that a girl wants to get married to a guy of her choice, which her parents disapprove of. And these "common" people often form this opinion that this is wrong! Without understanding the value of relationship that two people in love share, these "common" people just tag it as wrong. Though these "common" people thoroughly enjoy love stories and happy endings on silver screen, and they all agree that love is the most beautiful feeling one can have; but still when it comes to real life, they stick to their conservative mindset. Right or wrong, it is upto those individuals who want to spend their lives together, then why the hell it is being tagged by these "common" people. These people need to understand that most important things in life are respect for one's individuality, respect for one's emotions, and freedom to live life by one's choice. 

Being Cool :)

What is this buzz around being cool? How often we say...o we really enjoyed with him, he is too cool, or hey...let's try this out, it looks cool! what is this "coolness" all about?

Well...some say that being cool means being modern, outgoing, trendy, and having a good sense of humour. And others say that being cool is simply being yourself, with no pretense and no inhibitions.

This is how I would define this "coolness" factor-

A person is actually "cool" if:
- He (or She) is good with people, warm hearted (opposed to literal coolness) and sensitive to the needs of others
- He is clear in his thought process, which eventually reflects in his conversation
- He is aware of good places to hang out with friends
- He knows how and when to use his sense of humour
- He is mostly well informed about current events and can add value to most of the conversations

A thing is actually "cool" if:
- It goes well with your personality
- It makes you as well others comfortable
- It complements the time and the place

So next time you call someone or something "cool", check on aforesaid parameters!

In conversation with God...

Here is an excerpt of my conversation with God...you think it is not possible to converse with God? trust me it is very much possible!

Me: Hello God! (with a smile)
God: Hello my child (reverting with smile)
Me: My lord, I am disturbed (as usual) and badly need your help!
God: Yes ofcourse, I am always there for you...tell me what you need?
Me: God, you know how much I need _________________ (that's a secret part of my conversation)
God: But, don't you already have that? I have already given you what you need my child!
Me: Yes god, but you know by past still haunts me and I am always fearful of loosing what I have!
God: I tested you in past, and you passed that test well. Now it is the time for you to enjoy my gift, don't worry
Me: I understand that god, but still you know that are lot of issues associated with it...I don't know how to manage!
God: Have I asked you to manage anything? Leave it to me, have faith in me...I won't let you down my child!
Me: Thanks a lot God, but you know I am not being able to live well with all these insecurities, and with these constant thoughts!
God: It happens, that's human nature. But tell me one thing...how sure are you about yourself and your sentiments?
Me: God, I am very much sure, I am person of strong will and deliver my best in my relationships.
God: Good, I know that. So, be assured...no need to worry. I am there to take care of your worries. Let time flow and you just keep delivering your best. Do not over-expect, I know when you need what. And I will give you right thing at the right time.
Me: God that sounds great! I won't worry from now on, because I know that you are always there with me and that you understand me better than I do myself!
God: Fine my child, just enjoy my blessings...I'll keep showering my love on you.
Me: God you are great...I love you!
God: So do I my child (smiles and goes silent)

So...have you ever had such a conversation with God? No? try it out!

Straight from Heart!

"Heart knows no boundation when it beats for someome,
it does not count thorns in its way,
what it counts are the lonely days"

"Listening the dictates of your heart may let you down for a day or two,
but this will serve the purpose that even the brain can't do"

"With true love and purity in your heart, you can make the whole world yours"

"Only a minute fraction of millions win in the game of hearts"

"There are few people who can hear the voice of unspoken words, lucky are those who finds them out"

"Do not love someone for you are alone,
even not for you need a reason to live;
love someone to perform good deeds,
love someone to pray for his desired needs"